Relationship with conflict. There are many different points of view when it comes to conflict. Some see conflict as all bad and avoid it at all costs. Some people see conflict as an opportunity to grow and become closer to the other party. Still the process of conflict is never pleasant, but it can have some good outcomes. Relationship with conflict.
A person’s relationship with conflict often comes from how it was viewed growing up and how their parents or family modeled it for them. Some see conflict as “all bad” and they avoid it entirely without coming to a resolution. While I do not think a person sees conflict as “all good,” those that have had conflict resolution modeled well are typically more equipped with seeing and negotiating a resolution that is good for all parties. Relationship with conflict.
This does not mean that a person cannot learn how to deal with conflict in a healthy manner. This often happens in marriages, with friends and even roommates. If a person completely shuts down when there is a conflict often times this is an indicator of learned behavior from possibly growing up in an environment where conflict potentially became abusive and therefor conflict is avoided at all costs. This person has had a very negative, potentially abusive experience from past conflicts, and they shut down.I have met with a number of couples who have very different outlooks and experience dealing with conflict. Often times both people will learn to make changes to accommodate the other person. When someone is not willing to budge or make changes, that could be a red flag.
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