The busiest season for any gym is always in January as many people have set a new year’s resolution to work out more, lose weight and/or to meet a fitness goal. With this resolution, most of these individuals have all but given up by the end of February. Why is that?
The first few weeks come with the most motivation as a person is full of physical and emotional energy to put in the work to get to the gym to workout. After week four or even week six, the novelty of that shiny new goal starts to fade as the person realizes what all must be sacrificed of altered to accommodate the total amount of work involved to make this effort consistent.
Many times, a person’s expectations are off. The first month off consistently working out that person is going to experience the most results. After that, the gains are still there but at a much lower percentage. When a person is putting in all this effort only to not get what they expected, the result is frustration which results in giving up on the goal.
The same is true for the goal of weight loss. Someone will alter their diet and will see results at first, but when they are not seeing that same result consistently it results in discouragement.
How can a person get around this? Mindset. Realize reaching a goal means consistently putting in the needed work to reach the goal especially around those times where meeting that goal seems harder and you are tempted to give up. Part of that mindset is realizing unrealistic expectations you may have had and to adjust those expectations.
Technically I started my business, Clearer Thoughts PLLC in November of 2019. I built a website that just was not resulting in people visiting the site and making appointments. So, I joined a counseling practice accelerator where they built an excellent website, taught me about digital marketing and offered coaching for one year.
The biggest lesson I took from my time in this program is continuing to adjust my expectations and to not go on this journey alone. At first my expectations were that my business would grow exponentially, and I would have 20 full paying clients. That was not the case. The person who I check in with is my director at Soul Care Christian Counseling where I have worked for the past five years. She said, “it is going to take time.” Sure enough, she is right.
Whatever goal you have in mind, realize there will be times where that goal suddenly seems insurmountable where it is very tempting to give up. Don’t do it. Take a step back, reassess the situation and bring in another person who has had a similar experience. Don’t go it alone. Rest if you need to and reassess the situation and plan your next step.
If you are looking for a therapist near you then a Google search is a great way of finding one. I happen to be a therapist in Charlotte, NC but am licensed to counsel anyone in the state of North Carolina. In Google, try looking for “psychotherapist,” “find therapist,” “therapy near me,” or even “counseling charlotte, nc.” If you feel like you have hit a wall you are not able to get past, call me at (704) 458-6298 or email me at jeffhelms@clearerthoughtspllc.com.
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