In 2023, I did not turn 50, but I will this year in 2024. The older I get the more I despise and push back on change and see that every circumstance or decision has benefits and drawbacks to them. One example is where I live where I have an office. Two out of five days I am venturing out to see clients, but the rest, it is just my cat and me. Turns out that introverts needs to be around people too.
Also, the older I get the more introverted I have become. I love that time of peace and not being hurried. Too much of this peace and quiet makes the silence deafening. So, I have been more proactive getting out whether that Is to run an errand or go to the gym, but for only 30 minutes. That time where I am around and talking with other people can boost my mood that carries to the rest of the day. Why is that? I thought it was just the extroverts that got their charge from other people…
Even introverts, who typically enjoy being alone and can find interacting with people tiring, still need social interaction. Here are a few reasons why:
People are wired for relationship and comradery; while some can appreciate solitude more than others, the need for social interaction is ingrained in our genes. This applies to introverts as well. Even if they find social interactions to be draining at times, these can also be sources of joy, wisdom, and stimulation.
Introverts need support too. As someone who does not like asking for help does not mean it is not needed. Socializing helps in processing emotions and thoughts, and in gaining insights from others. Introverts, like all people, experience a wide range of emotions and could benefit from the emotional support that comes from social interactions.
Interaction with other people often leads to learning and growth, which can be professionally or personally beneficial. This learning can come through sharing ideas, hearing different perspectives, or even taking on challenges that are difficult to tackle alone.
I need to live what I would say to a client dealing with loneliness or depression in that social interaction has been demonstrated to be beneficial for mental health. It can lower stress levels and risk for depression and anxiety. Despite their natural tendency toward solitude, introverts also need to be aware of their mental health and ensure they are getting enough social interaction to remain healthy.
Isolation to the introvert can be recharging for a period of time. Spending those amounts of time in isolation could potentially lead to feeling of loneliness. Similarly, spending all time in social settings might be overwhelming for introverts. So, there is a balance to practice there. Everyone should gauge their own feelings and needs, being careful to ensure they are filling both their need for solitude and their need for social interaction.
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