I have a client who has experienced several traumatic events in their lives that turned into a passion to help other people. This client experienced something very deep and dark. Overwhelmed to the point of despair there seemed no way out. This process took years and...
In the world of counseling, transference is when the client is reminded of a negative experience or trait from someone in their past that the counselor is reminding them of. In turn, the client may view the counselor the same way they view this person they are...
Last week I had an MRI. Being that I have had over 100 MRIs in the past 30 years I was not concerned. Checking off the list of the intake assessment I paused a bit on checking off the box for “do you have claustrophobia?” I checked “no” since I was very familiar with...
This past week my dad has been in the hospital. His symptoms seemed serious going in as he was having trouble breathing and getting a full breath. My dad has been on dialysis for the past three years. What was going on was that too much fluid had built up putting...
The past few weeks, one of the clients I have started to work with is a celebrity. This client is through BetterHelp, an online platform offering weekly counseling sessions for a monthly fee. This person works intensely for seven months out of the year. Those other...
As I licensed counselor in the state of North Carolina, part of my criteria to become fully licensed is to accumulate 2,000 direct face-to-face hours with clients and 1,000 indirect hours which can be from personal reading and research. Those 1,000 hours fill up...
Last week I talked about having a hard conversation. The longer a conversation like this is drawn out, the worse it gets as a person will anticipate how it may go. Sometimes these conversations blow up. Other times they go smoothly. The hard conversation that I was...
Recently I realized I had to have a potentially hard conversation with one of my jobs I am contracted with. This company that I work provides incredibly important help to individuals and families. My job as a licensed counselor is to write up a Comprehensive Clinical...
The past month I have been meeting with a person from Fayetteville, NC who says their biggest struggle is the regret of past decisions they have made. This client is in their late 20’s and is developing hindsight of the past ten years pinpointing how their life would...
One of the frustrations I have discovered in counseling are last minute scheduling changes or when a person is a “no show.” I understand that life Is unpredictable and are out of a person’s control, but ideally, if a person knows there are going to miss an...
