No one likes waiting. The definition of waiting in the Bible is long suffering. In my opinion, waiting on hold on the phone for something important like a doctor’s office where the hold time is interfering with my own time is my definition of torture. Sometimes,...
As a #counselor I have discovered that I want to work myself out of a job as far as helping clients to reach their goals. However, I have seen a pattern of “aha” moments some clients come to where they turn a corner and are better able to manage their...
In going on six years of counseling full-time, I frequently get this statement from couples who have come to an impasse in their relationship, “when things are good, they are really good, but when things are bad, they are really bad.” Because of this dynamic, the...
The absolute worst critic on anyone is themselves. You know that small voice in your head that will make subtle retorts like “you idiot” after the smallest mistake made. I know this by personal experience. What if those words were formed a long time ago by an...
In the past two weeks I have received specific feedback about trauma from several clients of mine. Each of the feedback I received had a common denominator which had to do with working through a trauma and what that may look like managing in the future. These clients...
You’re allowed bad days. Last Monday was one of those days it seemed nothing was working. The quality of the previous night’s sleep determines my mood for the next day. That morning I felt good-ish, not bad, but not great. Monday morning, I had one client go way over...
“How do you think you are doing?” I have started to ask this question at the end of a session for clients who tend to be self-critical on themselves. Think of the “straight A” student in high school and/or college whose lives look incredible on the outside. However,...
Last week I returned to work after a refreshing two-week vacation. Even though my vacation was more of a staycation, nonetheless I was able to get that disconnect from a hectic work schedule. I think looking forward to work after a vacation is a good sign. Last Monday...
The Pain and Effort Correlation. There is a television show on Saturday mornings around 11am about young entrepreneurs who are trying to start their business. This show is geared toward teenagers, but the lessons taught by the host of the show hold true for any person...
Have you ever had that feeling that something is off, just slightly? You cannot explain it as “it” has not happened yet. Only that “it” is going to happen. Perhaps you have made plans and you go ahead and prepare to take that trip/meet that person/decided to cover for...
