There is a worship song called “Don’t Put People in Boxes.” This means mentally placing someone in a category without truly knowing who they are. This could also be interpreted as a bias or formulas people perceive other people through. What about when someone has an...
The “miracle question” is often used in counseling by asking, “if you were to wake up tomorrow and everything is how you want it to be, what would that look like?” The purpose of the question is for the person to imagine what circumstances would be like with their...
I listen to a podcast weekly from Dr. Henry Cloud called Boundaries. This podcast mentioned happiness is based on 10% of a person’s circumstances. Essentially, happiness can be bumped with a new shiny whatever, where the other 90% is based on everyday choices made....
Over the past number of years, I have been able to predict the person or couple that will reach the goals that have set out to meet. There is just one criterion that determines their degree of success. That criterion is the person’s attitude toward work and following...
The past month I have met with several people who all have the same problem in common. They have a glaring issue that needs to be resolved with their friend or spouse or family member and are not sure how to address the issue because of past behavior. Handling...
So, I had my gallbladder taken out recently. I felt a sharp pain in the upper right part of my abdomen. I thought it would go away and thought nothing of it. Except the pain was at a 10 for two hours straight. Realizing this was something potentially serious I called...
Wanting to be liked is a common and natural desire to have. The thought that someone dislikes you can be horrifying for some. A word of wisdom that has stayed with over the years is that if everyone like you, you are probably doing something like compromising your...
A bittersweet time around this time of year is paying taxes. Last year I was caught off guard as to how much I owed as it was the first full year my company Clearer Thoughts brought in revenue. This year, I was a bit more prepared as I started the process last fall of...
Business has been slow the past few months. I surmise this because of inflation with gas being eighteen dollars a gallon and the cost of living rising. These rules affect business. Business has been slow for other therapists I know so it is not just me. . This week I...
Worrying or worry in general is a feeling of defeat before an event has even started. The past few weeks, with the events in Ukraine, I have spoken with several people worrying about how this conflict will unfold. One of the symptoms of General Anxiety Disorder is...
